Lessons for Living
Do you see the doughnut or the hole?
|You leave your old,
secure job for a fresh opportunity at a hot new company. But one month later that hot
company is out of gas, and you're out of a job. An optimist would say, "Well, it's
unfortunate, but it's just temporary. I have other possibilities. I did all I could."
This person bounces back from disappointment and stays motivated.
Pessimists, however, look at the same setback and say, "This is terrible. I'll never get over it. It just ruins everything. I don't have what it takes for this business." This attitude withers motivation and leads to despair and self-blame.
Which style is yours? If you take the pessimistic approach, you may be making harmful self-fulfilling prophecies, predicting failure, and robbing yourself of energy and drive.
If you're plagued by pessimism, give your attitude an overhaul. It just takes awareness and effort. Start by looking at what are called the three P's of pessimism -- permanent, pervasive and personal.
If you think the situation is permanent, you believe it's unchangeable and the consequences will last forever. If you allow the problem to be pervasive, it will negatively affect every area of your life. If you take the situation personally, you feel it's a reflection of your flaws or failure.
Learn to challenge these three P's.
The key to changing your pessimistic outlook is learning that you can change it. Accepting this truth is the first step to personal growth. Next, focus on your strengths. Acknowledge your positive efforts, and you'll start living better and happier.
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